Are you fully committed to Christ? It's a heavy question but one none of us should be afraid to ask ourselves. Being one foot in, one foot out has consequences we may not fully realize. Everybody's a Christian until the lights get bright.
“Whiles it remained, was it not thine own? and after it was sold, was it not in thine own power? why hast thou conceived this thing in thine heart? thou hast not lied unto men, but unto God.”
God sees right through us. When we're moved to do a thing for God, we may as well do it all the way. Fully investing in something is never easy. It may leave us empty handed in the short term but look at it as God making room for the abundance of good things he wants to bless us with.
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.”
Ah yes, there goes that dreaded c word. Nobody likes to make one as no one enjoys possibly falling short of the mark. Quite often, commitments are only made when we're at least 98% sure we can handle the job. The most important commitment we'll ever have however is our commitment to God. Our spiritual marriage covenant to the one that saved our soul.
“When thou shalt vow a vow unto the LORD thy God, thou shalt not slack to pay it: for the LORD thy God will surely require it of thee; and it would be sin in thee.”
A commitment is a bond. When you spend significant time with someone, one thing that may take place is a transfer of traits. You may pick up certain words or phrases they use. You may even adopt an accent. Spend enough time with that person and you may find your entire personality transform. If this happens in the natural, how much more so when we spend time with God?
“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
2 Corinthians 3:18
Stages of denial
The formation of idols in our mind is the beginning of spiritual fornication. The manifestation of these imaginations brings about our destruction. Its the illusion of success while being set up for failure. When we walk in the flesh, we feed on fruits like lust. The flesh is satisfied but the heart remains empty. This creates an internal conflict. We keep feeding the flesh as it appears that this is where the hunger is, while the heart grows more and more neglected.
“...the love of many shall wax cold.”
- Matthew 24:12
When you feed a living thing it grows. The bigger it gets, the bigger the hunger there is to satisfy. Lust invites us to let our guard down. If the scriptures call us spiritual houses, we can consider our flesh to be the walls of our house. Losing control of our flesh leaves us without control of our walls. This becomes open season for invaders.
Why might a relationship fail?
Fornication is built upon the foundation of being unfaithful. When we abide outside the boundaries of faith, we're no longer operating in God territory. Sometimes individuals may find themselves working two jobs. Reasons may vary but the main factor is that there is a lack of faith in the first job being able provide for all their needs. Our first job is to love God. It comes with lifetime benefits and a blank cheque. He is able to provide above and beyond.
“But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
2. Immaturity or being unprepared for commitment
A commitment is a sharing of power so sacrifice will always be involved. In adultery, we share our power with something other than God. Trying to keep multiple commitments that are simultaneously pulling at our time and resources never works out. Consider a rubber band. We can stretch it to great extremes and watch it bounce back to its original state. That rubber band also has a limit that the person stretching it may not be fully aware of. If we're not graceful, there may come a point where we're not able to bounce back.
“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
2 Timothy 2:22
3. Unresolved personal issues
It might sound cliche but we can't love one another if we don't love ourselves. Take it one step further, you can't love yourself if you don't love God. Why? God is in us. We were created in his image and likeness. Loving yourself while denying God is prime breeding grounds for internal conflict. It's important that we become cleansed from any hidden sins we're holding onto.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts”
What makes a relationship work?
Love. The magnetic pull of love is stronger than the pull of any outside temptation. Love enables us to mature and grow into who we need to be for a relationship. Love also heals the personal issues we often carry into relationships. How? Love covers a multitude of sins. Love penetrates past our flesh and finds a resting place within our hearts.
Great is thy faithfulness
What do we do with the temptation of fornication? We're asked to flee. Is fleeing easy? Almost never. Joseph resisted Potiphar's wife and it landed him in prison. Resisting the temptation of stepping outside of faith will be met with resistance in the flesh.
“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
1 Corinthians 10:13
Resisting the flesh also builds thick skin. When a person does resistance exercises it builds muscle tone. It builds what's known as definition. In other words it defines us. When you've been through a challenging situation with a person and they come through for you, a feeling of owing them tends to develop. To owe a person means you feel obligated to them. An obligation is a commitment. Joseph had so many incredible testimonies of the greatness of God that his heart was undoubtedly committed to him.
“Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.”
Commitment to God means supply. Like Adam in the beginning, it's time to wake up and witness the beauty of God. Live in grace, walk in peace and be blessed.
“For in the multitude of dreams and many words there are also divers vanities: but fear thou God.”